‘I am blessed to have a daughter’
‘Daughters are the best gift from God’
These are few of status updates or posts on facebook, twitter and other forums by young mothers, and sometimes by fathers, which I come across every now and then. I have been reading such numerous posts about daughters being the best offspring, how they are so loving and caring and all. Strangely, most mothers (in fact all) who say that daughters are best, don’t have sons…so I always wonder, what made them come to such a conclusion, that daughters are best? And why should there be any comparison at all? Or are they trying to convey something else?????
When someone says that daughters are best (best being the superlative of good), he or she is either very happy to have a girl child who according to her/him is better than a boy, or worse, the person wants to convey to the world that he/ she is very happy even with the feminine gender of her progeny…never heard any female colleague shouting on top of her voice (of course, on the social networking sites) that she was really happy to have a son (and not a daughter), or that sons were best.
If a woman says she is blessed to have a son, or sons are best, would we react to her in the similar fashion we do with the mother who says daughters are best? I don’t think so, the woman would be accused of being gender insensitive, orthodox in her views, backward etc… and dare a woman say she wants to have a son rather than a daughter! Aren’t we reinforcing (with the twist, of course) the despicable, deep-rooted bias, the gender inequality which many women continue to battle in different spheres of life even today?
How can one compare a girl and a boy child when one has only daughter/daughters or son/sons, how can one say that the sex of his/her progeny is the best, and even when one has both, I don't think comparing genders is a good idea…Nourish them with your love and care and teach them to respect the opposite sex…and do away with the double standards...world will be a much better place to live in after a few years (well that doesn’t mean it’s that bad now).